what boys like

originally posted April 9, 2008


So I was reminded on sunday, yet again, that "most guys like girls with longer hair." I’ve joked, on occassion, that this is the very reason I’ve decided to let mine grow (it ISN’T, btw). As someone who seems to be chronically single, these comments always tend to strike a nerve. It would appear that I DON’T know what "boys like" since I can’t seem to snag one. But upon giving it some thought, I realized that it’s the system I have a problem with. I’ve been taught, like most girls, that we must live our lives for the abstract male. The goal is to arrange things, be it weight, manner of dress, demeanor, and yes even hair, to prove marketable to the guys who are "in the market", as in the sale of a house or a car. If we don’t come with the right features, we won’t attract much interest. Well, I’ve decided that I’ve had enough. I’m through letting the abstract male dictate my decisions, INCLUDING those made concerning my hair. If someone specific is interested in me and really prefers something, then we’ll talk but until then, I’M calling the shots. It just seems kinda sneaky to me. I mean, I know how I am and I can only go so long before I have to do what I want to do. Why would I want to be with someone who likes someone who isn’t REALLY me, anyways? It’ll happen when it happens. Until then, I’m fine with not being "what boys like."